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EP 14: Dating Your Spouse: How to Create a Relationship Routine That Is Anything But

“If you want endless repetition, see a lot of different people; if you want variety, stay with one.” Host Corinne Morahan borrows a quote from folk icon Joni Mitchell to demonstrate the paradoxical nature of keeping romance alive: by putting routines in place, you can keep the fun and spontaneity alive in your long term relationship. On today’s episode of Get Organized for Good, Corinne shares some top tips she uses to keep the spark alive in her own 17-year marriage. Working, raising kids and dealing with all the stressors of modern life can take a toll on any marriage. But if you can start from a foundation of love and respect, these tips will help you to remember you’re on the same team.

As promised in last week’s episode, she shares the bean jar technique that she and her husband began using during their first year of marriage (hint: the goal is actually to keep the jar empty). Should you talk about the kids during date night? What do you do when you’re tired, on different schedules, or just don’t feel like doing anything? Corinne explains how to keep a date journal and the importance of flirting.

Stay tuned to the end of the episode for your sexting assignment, and to discover Corinne’s curated sexy playlist.

Quotes

“I very much enjoy being around my husband. We have a lot of fun. We still have a great sex life. And that’s what I want for all of you.” (5:44 | Corinne Morahan)
“Not every year has looked the same. Not every season has been the best season for us. There—I was going to say there are times we are annoyed with each other–obviously he’s not annoyed with me because I’m perfect—but there are plenty of times where I get annoyed with him. So, I don’t want to paint a picture of something that is completely untrue and unrealistic because that is just not reality. We are two human beings, working through our own shit, raising two of the most incredible children.” (6:03 | Corinne Morahan)
“My husband and I wrote our own vows and in them we said, ‘It’s just you and me, playing catch.’ I don’t even know how to throw a ball, I don’t know how we came up with that, but I love the metaphor. Whatever’s happening around us in the outside world, it’s just the two of us, playing catch. Sometimes it’s the two of us against our kids, if you know what I’m saying. Just the two of us against the world.” (9:58 | Corinne Morahan)
“Listen, sometimes I’m not in the mood. I’ve already shared, many times, I’m a homebody. I like to be in cozy clothes; I like to stay in my house and do nothing. So, sometimes, putting on clothes and getting myself all done up doesn’t feel like exactly the thing I want to do. But I love sitting across the table from my husband, drinking a dirty martini.” (18:42 | Corinne Morahan)
“Most of us just fall into a rut and we take each other for granted, we get tired, our spouses see us at our literal worst, they see us at our ugliest, they see us at our most disgusting. I’m not trying to be my best self all the time at my house. So, it makes it even that much more important that we get dressed up for date night, that we send each other flirty and fun texts and that we make it fun.” (21:58| Corinne Morahan)